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@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
It was an honor to speak at the Supreme Court today! 🇺🇸 Detransitioners, parents, and doctors spoke truth to the lies of gender ideology while activists screamed “No one cares!” This is what abusers say to victims. The country CARES about children being hurt. Thank you! ❤️ https://t.co/w9w4uUKAYG
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
🧵This is me when I was trans and had my breasts cut off. I’m posting this for the first time so people understand why I voted Trump. This is happening to young women all over America. I know I’ll be ridiculed but I don’t care—retweet if you want this to stop:
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I was abused as a little girl by my father. Woke ideology told me if I hated myself I was trans. That was a lie. I was always just an abused girl. She didn’t deserve this.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I wanted to kill myself for a very long time. But I persevered and detransitioned. After detransition I still wanted to die because I saw no way to ever feel loved. That was also a lie. I am now very loved. ❤️❤️❤️
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I’ve been gaslit even by my own family for voting against the butchers who helped permanently mutilate me and my peers.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I moved away from my hometown and my family in Wisconsin by myself this year to start a new life in Phoenix. I felt like an orphan without any family but I endured the grief knowing it was better to be alone than around hurtful people. Now I’m thriving in Phoenix ☀️
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
The left pretends detransitioners don’t exist and that we hate trans people. This is a deflection to avoid harsh truths about the gender mutilation industry. I left everything behind to leave the cult and had to reprogram from 27 years of abuse and ptsd to stand up today.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
While the left whines about abortion and calls MAGA evil I am planning my memoir release for 2025 to actually do something about harm to women and girls.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
Thank you for listening. Please share this with everyone who needs their eyes opened. No more willful blindness. ❤️🔥
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
If you would like to support my book and other work, you can do so here, it all helps greatly. https://donorbox.org/detransawareness
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I am also a funkadelic artist so I designed these which I’m pretty proud of 😁
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I promised that if Trump won I'd design some tie dye MAGA merch! There was a serious lack of groovy #MAGA and #MAHA representation so I'm filling that gap! Shop groovy MAGA hats, shirts, and sweatshirts for both men and women in my shop 🇺🇸❤️https://laurabecker.org/collections/patriotic
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
🧵I’m a detransitioner endorsing Trump. My family who supported my transition (due to fear of suicide) is horrified. I am posting this frustrating exchange with my mom to model setting and accepting boundaries for others in similar situations:
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
My mom is embarrassed of my Trump vote and is being shamed by her sisters, two of whom sent nasty texts to me. She is also concerned about my memoir describing my childhood abuse from my father.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
In response, I set boundaries around tolerating harassment from extended family. I pointed out their emotional manipulation of me and the stress caused unfairly to her. I also set boundaries around her reading my memoir, which may be upsetting for her.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
She claims my aunts have always been supportive by giving me money to have my breasts cut off. This is frustrating because the fact my ignorant but well-intended liberal aunts gave money to my medical mutilation IS THE PROBLEM. There was no emotional support or guidance, only supporting the affirmation model. I do NOT blame my aunts for this, we were all ignorant. But it reveals the leftover cognitive dissonance my mom feels about facilitating my surgery. She then goes into political TDS talk.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
What this response shows is that my political views and association with anti-trans politics disrupts her self-perception as a tribal liberal. She fears rejection from her tribe and as a mother. These are understandable human reactions. Yet it is clear this isn’t about me or anything I’ve done wrong. It reveals her insecurity and shame. That she cannot outright admit her guilt for encouraging transition, instead blaming it on me being suicidal, indicates she hasn’t found peace.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
As a detransitioner in deep therapy, I’ve accepted my personal failure to protect myself, AND how I was groomed and experienced medical malpractice from the gender industry. My mom and aunts have not accepted either. They still want to believe left media and ideology is good and couldn’t have lied and hurt me, and other kids.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I wrote a long response, careful to acknowledge her feelings while offering new perspective that she and my aunts may be avoiding confrontation with their guilt. I didn’t accuse her of being guilty, but I described how many families experienced similar issues with the ideology and have parenting regrets, implying she’s far from alone, and there are system-wide forces at play in the country.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I encouraged her to recognize that my aunts were causing triangulation, and boundaries should be set with them. I also acknowledged previous discussions we’ve had about her mental unavailability to research these topics. It is somewhat alienating that my family isn’t interested in gender ideology or my work, but I’ve accepted previously that they don’t want or need the stress.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
We discussed more personal things that I won’t share, but we resolved the conflict amicably. We agreed to disagree about politics, and that she is proud of my growth and skills, but doesn’t support my politics nor is interested in learning about gender ideology. We agreed the aunts shouldn’t be rude but we can’t control their behavior, and I will hold boundaries with them individually.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
Takeaways: My mom, like many Americans, is in survival mode. She has chronic health issues, and other familial concerns that prevent her energy for seeking or receiving new information. She wants to preserve our relationship, as do I, but our connection cannot be as close as I’d like because she isn’t available for deeper emotional attunement. This along with father abuse has created attachment injury in my childhood. As an adult I accept why I’ve struggled relationally, while taking accountability for my healing. Your parents won’t heal you. Returning to the source of your trauma and expecting redemption is a childlike hope that sadly won’t work. Thankfully, we can prioritize our well-being by listening to people tell us their limitations and not trying to change them. We have control over our present reactions to act better than in the past, and forge our own futures.
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
How does this exchange make me feel? Disappointed. It would be nice if my mom was available to discuss emotional and intellectual topics so I felt she understood me in fundamental ways. It is sad that she is in survival mode and I wish she was feeling better in her life. I also feel politically frustrated with her views, as it feels she hasn’t internalized my work. Overall, sadness and disappointment are part of close relationships. We resolved a conflict that had many pieces and that increases relational confidence and emotion regulation for future interactions. I hope this model was helpful to others dealing with conflicts. End 🧵
@LauraBeckerReal - Laura Becker🦎
I am releasing a memoir next year where I describe in vivid detail why and how I transitioned, detransitioned, and became a patient advocate for kids and families. If you'd like to support my advocacy, everything is appreciated. https://donorbox.org/detransawareness